As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same.But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile.Despite over a decade of prayer, a proper attitude toward the commitment and responsibility of marriage, and realistic expectations, it just hasn’t happened. But, at the same time, in this long season of singleness, I’ve had a lot of time to think and pray about these things.I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!It wasn’t too many years ago that I was a young unmarried Christian man and I got plenty of advice from older, well-meaning Christians.Most of that advice was fantastic; but unfortunately, I completely ignored almost all of it. You are my sun, moon, and stars.” But all of this is idolatry and it is spiritually (and emotionally) devastating. That’s what it means to have no other gods before Him. And it’s only when you understand this that you can truly enjoy a relationship with another person.Jenna voiced a common concern among single Christians looking for a lifelong partner: “My spiritual beliefs and values often make dating a very risky pursuit.I’ve been set up with guys—even ones who know I’m a Christian—who expect me to go along with their lifestyle choices: sex, drugs, excessive drinking, and the rest.
The blazing reality is that she emits about 5 million tons of energy per second, energy that is continuously absorbed and reemitted at lower and lower temperatures, lest the cruel queen of our solar system swallow us whole. Every erotic urge that pulses through us, body and soul—whether it be the delicate flower of puppy love or the florid blossom of sexual desire—brings life or death, depending on how successfully it is managed.She seems to get me, in a way my wife never has.” Think this scenario is unrealistic? The Universe hasn’t destined you for anything or anyone.You have to how you will spend your life and who you will spend it with. But I’m going to tell you something a lot of people seem too afraid to tell young people these days, sex outside of marriage is sin. He knows sex is a blessing, but only when it is experienced in marriage.Sex is God’s gift, and thoughtful Christians know that. Moderate sexual expression, particularly in a stable relationship, has been correlated with health benefits, including better sleep and less depression, better cardio health, and even pain relief!The focus of this article isn’t sex, and yet, at the same time, it is.This article, while biblically-based, contains material best appreciated by mature readers.—Editors. But while we need the sun, we need it in tolerable doses.